Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Getting My Shit Together

Does it ever seem like everyone else has their shit together?  Except you?

This past weekend I went to visit one of my best friends in Pittsburgh.  She has two boys my kids' age, and we had an awesome time.  Her house is beautiful.  Her kids are adorable.  She hosted dinner and then brunch.  She is six months pregnant, yet still looks stylish.  She has amazing window treatments and a wine refrigerator and multiple throw pillows on the guest room bed.  She has a dog that can go outside without a leash.  She stays at home with her two kids and has all their toys organized into plastic bins which are labelled by topic with a typed sticker.

She really has her shit together.

And it's not just her.

My good friend and neighbor baked almond bars for all the neighbors last winter.  She has three boys, and her house is always clean.

Another good friend put up a wall sized chalk board in her apartment, so that her daughter could draw and create to her heart's content.  She already has the correct pencil hold.

In the past two weeks, two moms in my weekly playgroup have cooked dinner for all the kids and moms at our weekly get together.  Cooked!  One mom even has a six week old baby, and she still managed to cook a pasta bake and homemade macaroni and cheese.  

Then there's my blogging friend, Darcy.  Have you seen her blog?  She bakes.  She crafts.  She takes awesome pictures.  She does art in the mornings.  

And don't even get me started on moms who go to the gym.

Now lets talk about me.

This is what our den looks like:

Pretty much all the time.
This is what our hall closet looks like:

All the time.

This is what I provide at playgroup dinners:

And it tastes so good.
This is what I wear for most of the day:

Rocking the Christmas pajamas.  In January. 

This is the extent of crafting in our household:

And this bag isn't opened very often.

And this is how our dog spends most of the day:

I admit I staged this photo.  But you get the idea. 

I honestly don't know how so many of these moms do it. They make it look so easy!  And it makes me wonder what is wrong with me.  Why can't I get my shit together?

But then again.... when I have people over, I do clean.  I put on make-up and non-pajama clothing. I arrange couch cushions.  I provide food (nevermind it's usually not cooked by me).  I am happy and carefree and momentarily put together.

So I have to wonder - do some people think I have my shit together?


The answer is no.  No, I do not.  But for now, I'm thriving in the chaos.


  1. Personally, I'm a fan of pizza. Your boys are happy. You're succeeding. :)

  2. That was a make me laugh out loud post! I really needed that, especially these days. :)


  3. Loving the honesty! I have a 9 month old and my shit is no where near together ha!

  4. I know what you mean- I read this article today and immediately thought of you and all my mommy friends and how it is not about looking like we have it together or never admitting that we get overwhelmed but rather appreciating the chaos and embracing it (while also counting down to bedtime). http://www.huffingtonpost.com/glennon-melton/dont-carpe-diem_b_1206346.html

  5. I don't have anything together - my house is a disaster and i wear sweatpants all the time, i just like to take lots of pictures where i blur the background and make things look good! But thanks for the compliment!

  6. Yes, now that is EXACTLY the state of my closet! You know it is bad when your own 5 year-old starts complaining about it.

  7. It's a tough job, and it takes a lot of work and getting used to. Don't worry, you're not alone. At some point, we've all been there. This post really made me laugh, thanks for sharing.

  8. Well, they probably put their kids in front of the TV more than you do, and may be accumulating debt from the maid and all the other restaurant food you don't see.

  9. I know I am commenting on a post that is almost a year old. I did a random Google search for "Get My Shit Together" and stumbled here as well as a site about the World's Strongest Librarian, who by the way has Tourette's Syndrome. Don't ask. Anyway, in response to your "will I ever get it together"... maybe.. there's hope, but not for people like me. I don't have the "get your shit together" gene. My kids are 21 and 16 and home still looks like a tornado hit it. I have a Nina, she's spectacular. Nina has her shit together. She comes in once a month to deep clean my house... otherwise, I don't think the kitchen floor would ever get mopped. I am ok with this as I know I will never end up on Hoarders as long as Nina keeps showing up.

  10. The jammies. Oh the jammies. LOVE them.


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