tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3917175986608222742.post5022267938994288878..comments2023-12-13T06:15:49.447-05:00Comments on But I do have a law degree...: Great ExpectationsBut I Do Have a Law Degreehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06362410549493994038noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3917175986608222742.post-81471022036658872192012-12-10T23:15:42.821-05:002012-12-10T23:15:42.821-05:00The first two months are really hard...the lack of...The first two months are really hard...the lack of sleep alone will drive a person crazy let alone u r to function and take care of a helpless little creature of ur making. Hang in there. Ask for help. I remember my baby nursed for like six hours straight during the first month and I thought I was going to lose it. Had to set him down and take a shower. He cried. I cried. My shower was like 3 mins. My husband gave him a bottle. I didn't want him to not have the best food in the world or get nipple confusion but serious six hours...we all made it. Take care of ur self and don't buy into the hype. I did for six hours and that was way too long. My sons 17 months and still nursing. On a rare occassion I needed to just let him cry a little while I drink a glass of wine...at 11 am. Or watch too much elmo while read people.com. Be kind to urself. U will get through it. Get outside. Go to the building museum chinatown dc. Or the wilson indoor saline pool for babies. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3917175986608222742.post-50359506085088256502012-12-09T14:00:44.916-05:002012-12-09T14:00:44.916-05:00Thank you for this. I just lost my best friend a f...Thank you for this. I just lost my best friend a few months ago to post partum depression and have been struggling every since with the realization that a new baby is not always a time of great joy for everyone. I would do anything to bring her back and support her. I wish more mothers would reach out to one another and share their struggles. Accepting her death, especially so close to the holiday season, has been one of the hardest things of my entire life. We've started going to church and I still can't get through an entire service without crying. It's been awful. I wish she had known she wasn't alone and that things do get better. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3917175986608222742.post-82489281951475418812012-12-08T11:50:51.288-05:002012-12-08T11:50:51.288-05:00I do remember times when my mom was impatient, sna...I do remember times when my mom was impatient, snappish, or yelled at me, but I am not scarred by this and nor will your kids be. I also remember my mom making us hot chocolate after sledding (in those glorious, pre-climate change days of winter snow), decorating the Christmas tree with us (also with hodgepodge ornaments that all have a story or meaning), teaching us how to weed flower beds, teaching us how to make cookies, playing board games, insisting that we all eat breakfast together before school, advocating for us at school....all the things that parents do to help their kids learn how to be functional, reasonably kind people. Don't worry about the TV or the yelling. Don't lose sleep over it. Your kids are going to be fine.Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09543875018604881180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3917175986608222742.post-66084636158252843752012-12-07T13:05:58.701-05:002012-12-07T13:05:58.701-05:00My labour wasn't so bad, a lot of shaking, but...My labour wasn't so bad, a lot of shaking, but that's it thanks to wonderful epidurals. The recovery without any pain meds sucked! Much less so for baby no. 2, but still...it's not a picnic. It wasn't all puppies, clouds, and sunshine. It's a hard, sleep deprived, crying needed time where you are just wondering why someone let you out of the hospital with this baby! I think that those moments are definitely where it's at. Even when we are both ready to tear out our hair or one of us just wants to grab the keys and head out for a walk/drive one of the kids will do something so funny, adorable or just plain out of nowhere and we are all smiling and laughing...and sometimes that doesn't happen and we take that walk. Talking about it definitely helps!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3917175986608222742.post-88726979491621926852012-12-07T10:39:15.235-05:002012-12-07T10:39:15.235-05:00I have a five week old at home and have been strug...I have a five week old at home and have been struggling. I am thankful to have found this post. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3917175986608222742.post-12180814153071867572012-12-06T20:13:39.114-05:002012-12-06T20:13:39.114-05:00hey, I remember the shaking and vomiting!! what a...hey, I remember the shaking and vomiting!! what an ordeal. like a great deal in life, motherhood is chock full of both highs AND lows. And @LawDegree: Yes, you CAN handle the responsibility of having two people so dependent upon you. You will teach them how not to be, and you will do a brilliant job. Because you know the biggest secret - take care of Mommy first.Valeriehttp://wiw.motherscenter.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3917175986608222742.post-25637127676673491462012-12-06T16:04:27.599-05:002012-12-06T16:04:27.599-05:00love it, love it, love it. Beautifully written an...love it, love it, love it. Beautifully written and captures my sentiments to a "T". No one talks about the birthing until after one goes through it. It's like this big secret and all elder women are in on it...in case it may scare you. The only ones who do talk about it are those who had a beautiful, natural, drug-free, home birth that went perfectly with pushing for only 30 minutes and not one stitch with the subtle ommission of the shaking and vomiting. We should talk about it and make it less isolating and fearful. I swear I have PTS from my son's birth.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com