tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3917175986608222742.post3736683845642362493..comments2023-12-13T06:15:49.447-05:00Comments on But I do have a law degree...: So It's Not Just MeBut I Do Have a Law Degreehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06362410549493994038noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3917175986608222742.post-59235688911160143402012-02-15T21:22:58.815-05:002012-02-15T21:22:58.815-05:00I just recently came across your blog and became i...I just recently came across your blog and became instantly obsessed! So much so that I am going back and reading every post you've ever written! I am a working mom (not legal work though- healthcare administration) of a 14 month old love of my life. I am constantly battling everything you all have mentioned. A huge part of me wants to stay at home. And we could afford it although we'd have to reshuffle some things and I"m pretty sure that my husband would prefer me to work although he said he'd support me if I want to stay home. WIth the said, i'm fearful of the identity issues you've mentioned as well as the barrier to re-entry. I cannot tell you how comforting it is to 'hear' from other professional moms with similar battles. I couldn't agree more on the inflexibility of the culture here. And its not specific just to big law careers. Anyway, I could go on. But THANK YOU. THANK YOU for sharing in the way that you do and inviting others to share their experience and thoughts. IAmynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3917175986608222742.post-48740307905692346242011-10-13T14:28:35.126-04:002011-10-13T14:28:35.126-04:00wow, that nobody quote is awesome. i feel like i h...wow, that nobody quote is awesome. i feel like i have to frame it and post it somewhere.Darcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06751860223320893192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3917175986608222742.post-64063979601893985502011-10-12T10:55:08.517-04:002011-10-12T10:55:08.517-04:00I know EXACTLY what the anonymous posters are talk...I know EXACTLY what the anonymous posters are talking about. It is just how I felt - I was half assing it at work in terms of time and effort, and at home, I was so tired and stressed that I couldn't be in the moment with my kids. This is what eventually led me to where I am. <br /><br />It is interesting though, now on the other side of things. I can say that that feeling doesn't entirely go away. I still feel like I'm not 100% for my kids, because I am exhausted being home with them! I find myself turning on the TV for them so I can get a rest more times than I would like. I also struggle with feelings of inadequacy for abandoning my career, though I am coming to a peace that this is the best thing for my family right now. <br /> <br />I don't known the answer, and maybe there isn't a right answer. I think bottom line is, raising kids is hard - for any kind of mom. Though I think the saying is true - it's the hardest job you'll ever love. :)But I Do Have a Law Degreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06362410549493994038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3917175986608222742.post-23631254389973236852011-10-12T09:30:17.238-04:002011-10-12T09:30:17.238-04:00Anonymous just read my mind. Instead of the best ...Anonymous just read my mind. Instead of the best of both worlds, I feel like I fail on two fronts. And I have to struggle just to do that. The feedback at work is clearly that I am not fully committed (as I work "part-time"). But that "part-time" prevents me from attending school functions so I clearly fail there too. Really most days I feel lucky to be employed and have healthy children, but others are just hard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3917175986608222742.post-51176726245555741882011-10-10T15:14:20.955-04:002011-10-10T15:14:20.955-04:00I propose we accept as fact the proposition that o...I propose we accept as fact the proposition that our feelings as inadquate workers and inadequate mothers arise from the impossible and unreasonable expectations placed on workers and mothers. Who is with me? It's NOT us, it's the culture that expects workers to have no greater priority than work. How can you care for dependent family members and NOT have them be a priority at times? Life is unpredictable and uncontrollable that way. It happens. So, we shouldn't waste a minute feeling like we "don't measure up". We should organize and push back, and drag the workplace into the 21st century, where carework is essential and valued, and the workplace reflects the realities of workers' lives.Valeriehttp://wiwmotherscenter.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3917175986608222742.post-45908479644801469402011-10-10T14:18:26.984-04:002011-10-10T14:18:26.984-04:00Let me start by saying I love your blog- and I can...Let me start by saying I love your blog- and I can totally relate - not to the staying at home part as unfortunately I don't have the choice to stay at home- I have to work (so admittedly I am a little jealous but I still love your blog). The point I can relate to is feeling like no matter whether you are working or at home you do not feel like you measure up. Because I have kids and they will always be my top priority I feel like I do not measure up in the lawyer world but then as a mom who works I feel like I do not measure up in the mommy world- I think this is something that working mommies always struggle with and yet it does not get recognized often. Thus, you just are left feeling inadequate on all fronts. It is so tough - sorry for the rant I am just having a hard day being a working mommy. Thanks for your blogAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com